I have dated the same guy for 9 years. He constantly comes up with new reasons NOT to get married. At first it was 'i want to graduate, and instead of walking we will get married'.  Than it was we need to be in perfect shape,(many trips to the gym).  Now it is 'you need to stop fighting with me'. I have paid all the bills for a year since he graduated, and it seems he isn't even trying to get a job!!! What now?